Benches with stories
Lorenza, 73 years old
My name is Lorenza and I am 73 years old. I reside in Yé and I have been a married woman for a long time. My husband has already passed away, but I was never in love with him. I was forced to get married, because he was courting me and with family pressure. They told me that a woman needs to have a husband and raise a family. How are you going to live alone? They were different times. When I was young and was 22 years old, I always liked my neighbor Ana. We are still very good friends today, but how could I declare my love to another woman? It was forbidden and that a woman should only love one man and that you should only marry one man.
Now, when I walk around Lanzarote, I see female couples holding hands, hugging, and kissing. I wish I had the opportunity to have the partner that I wanted, in order to love that person and to spend my life, with that person.
Amir, 25 years old
My name is Amir, I am 25 years old, and I have fallen in love with a boy. My friend Rodrigo and I have always been together in class. We are very good friends and we are also on the same soccer team. He is openly gay and he doesn't hide it and he doesn't have any problems with anyone. I want to tell him how I feel, but my family wouldn't understand it. My family is Muslim and they don't accept gays. I'm afraid of being disowned, losing my family and being alone. They keep asking me when I am going to get a girlfriend, because I'm old enough to have a woman. What should I do?
Luis, 32 years old
My name is Luis, I'm 32 years old. I've spent years of my life dating women and I have had a few serious relationships for a couple of years. However, I have started to meet a boy, but I am not gay and this boy seems handsome, nice, and the truth is that I can't stop thinking about him. When I have him in front of me it's hard to breathe, and I just want to know more about him.
Besides, how am I going to fall in love with a guy? My friends wouldn't understand, whilst we spend the day making faggot jokes and I would not want them to stop talking to me if they found out that I liked a guy. I better not tell anyone and I am sure that it will pass. I'm sure this is temporary and that this boy will become just another boy.
Lucía, 17 years old
My name is Lucía and I am 17 years old. I study at an institute in Arrecife, I have known for a long time that this body does not correspond to who I really am. When I was younger, I asked my mum for princess clothes and colored shoes and I wanted to let my hair grow long. However, I always got the same answer such as; you can't wear that because these are things for girls and your a boy. When I grew up, this feeling didn't go away. It grew bigger and I realized that in reality, I was always a trans person. I confessed everything to my mum.
At first, I thought that she would be angry with me and that she would disown me and throw me out of the house. But she smiled and said: It's okay honey, for 16 years I've had a boy and now I have a girl. I will always love you, and I will be here with you.
Dolores
My name is Dolores and I want to tell you the story of my daughter Sandra. My daughter Sandra was born as a boy, but with an irregularity in her body. She was born with a well-formed penis and a small vagina-shaped malformation on her genitals.
The doctor told me that my son had to operate and fix this supposed malformation. My son spent 11 years of his life as a boy until he was 12 years old, when he began to develop female breasts. When we went back to the doctor to talk about this, he confirmed that my son was an intersex person and that the doctor who assisted me during the birth should never have operated on him.
We now know that my son was always a girl and that he was an intersex person.
If I had been informed of this reality, I would never have allowed his operation.
Pedro, 19 years old
My name is Pedro, I am 19 years old, and I have always lived in Tías. I have always wanted to wear what I wanted and I have been told that certain things are for girls and that certain things are for boys. People have always made fun of me for what I like and what I want to wear, whether I wear makeup, or how I have my hair.
Neither my family nor my friends understand me. I am a non-binary person and the views that I have about clothes, makeup, or the way of being does not interest me. I am simply a person who knows what he wants, knows what he feels.
I just want to be happy and be myself.
Alejandro 17 years old
My name is Alejandro, I am 17 years old and I go to Yaiza High School. I recently had a partner and the truth is that I'm having a hard time.
A few months ago I started dating Laura, who is a classmate. She is an intelligent, pretty, fun girl and she loves video games like I do. However she is a trans girl.
Since we started dating, students from all over the school have started laughing at me, calling me a faggot, because I'm dating a boy in skirts, or with a trans. Just because my girlfriend is a girl with a penis.
I had to start going out with my girlfriend's friends, because I couldn't stand my friends laughing at me anymore.
I'm not going to break up with her. She is special for me. I don't care what other people say.
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